Building Comfort
Before you can build rapport you need to build comfort. If a girl is uncomfortable she will find every excuse to avoid the situation. Comfort needs to be established right from the time you open you target. Your body language and how you position yourself is the first step in making her comfortable. If you are too aggressive and overbearing she will ultimately spook. When you first start engaging her in a conversation, try to avoid facing her directly as that can be too intimidating for her since she does not know you. Talk her while standing to the side of her or kind of at an angle. One of the best places to chat with a girl is up at the bar since this forces you guys to be at the side of each other.
Using what is known as a 'false time constraint' is another way to create instant comfort. This term comes from the Mystery Method and the purpose of it is to make the girl feel like she isn't going to be locked into a conversation with a random guy all night. You simply tell her that you need to get back to your friends in a couple minutes. Or you can even lean away from her like you are going to leave at any moment. This will drastically make her comfortable as she thinks that this is going to be a quick conversation. If all goes well, you will not need to actually leave her. The goal is to create a great connection and ultimately spend the night with her.
Using what is known as a 'false time constraint' is another way to create instant comfort. This term comes from the Mystery Method and the purpose of it is to make the girl feel like she isn't going to be locked into a conversation with a random guy all night. You simply tell her that you need to get back to your friends in a couple minutes. Or you can even lean away from her like you are going to leave at any moment. This will drastically make her comfortable as she thinks that this is going to be a quick conversation. If all goes well, you will not need to actually leave her. The goal is to create a great connection and ultimately spend the night with her.
Building Rapport
Make a girl laugh and can do anything with her!
Rapport is extremely important to seducing your target. She might be comfortable with you and you guys talk all night, but if you don't connect with her on a deeper level she will likely not be too attracted. Making a girl laugh is one of the best ways to build rapport. Most women have a soft spot for men who can make them laugh. So if you have a comedic side, by all means, use it to your ADVANTAGE! Rapport can be established through your routines and this is good for guys who aren't the best at making a girl laugh. Playing games and cold reading techniques are very effective. Cold reading is when you make observations about a girls personality and character based on her appearance or what she says. Start off with general observations and gradually make them more specific. If you get good at this, you can make her think that you know her so well and really understand her. Girls love a man who can understand and relate to them.
Playing games such as 'the cube' or the 5 questions game are very good for seducing women. Neil Strauss is a master at using these types of routines and games. The cube game is perfect because it involves cold reading based on the answers that they give and it is a way to engage them in an interesting and stimulating conversation.
Whatever you decide to do for building rapport just make sure it is interesting and filled with content. Memorizing routines and stacking them is a great way to keep conversations going and ensures that will not run out of material to talk about.
Playing games such as 'the cube' or the 5 questions game are very good for seducing women. Neil Strauss is a master at using these types of routines and games. The cube game is perfect because it involves cold reading based on the answers that they give and it is a way to engage them in an interesting and stimulating conversation.
Whatever you decide to do for building rapport just make sure it is interesting and filled with content. Memorizing routines and stacking them is a great way to keep conversations going and ensures that will not run out of material to talk about.
